Autisimz

Well, this weekend my cousin had a party for his birthday; he is now 16. With my family there is always a lot of people in a close vicinity and being new to autism I fist think how is my son going to handle this and should I prepare anything. I didn't really prepare much because as I thought about there is nothing really to prepare for. Well he did throw a few fits and scratch my face a little because he was frustrated (for good reasons) and other than that everything was fine and there was no problem.

As a look back on the day I find that the behavior of my son is pretty typical, no he didn't run around and get into trouble like "normal" kids do and I see that most of the issue is that I am looking for autistic behavior and classifying everything he does. I find this troubling to me because I personally feel that if we start labeling his behavior and finding problems with it then it will be so. It is like if one consistently labels someone so often then it is inevitable that it will be so. I do not no exactly but I do recall in college that if you constantly call a child bad and terrible that they will eventually become a bad person. I feel this may happen to my son that if we keep trying to explain his behavior and throw it into a bucket of "good days" and "bad days".

For the most part I am of the opinion that he is my son and that is his personality and qualities and not so much the autism that is coming through. I must stress that I am not in denial of my child's condition I just feel that I hate having the feeling that I have to justify my son's actions and I don't know if its human behavior I feel this way or is it the whole process of learning your child has autism.